Beyond Rapport – If You Dare


Many of you may be familiar with the standard rapport techniques, which can help you to create rapport with someone and get them to open up to you and trust you in moments.

These techniques involve matching someone’s body language and tone of voice, as well as matching their preferred mode of thinking (visual, auditory and kinesthetic). If you are not familiar with these rapport techniques, you can read about them and many other powerful persuasion techniques in the book I co-wrote, “Power Persuasion: Using Hypnotic Influence to Win in Life, Love and Business,” (David R. Barron and Danek S. Kaus).

You can link to the Amazon listing here and read the rave reviews on the front and back covers.
Power Persuasion
The Beyond Rapport technique, which we call Power Rapport in the book, is much different. And much, much more powerful.
On several levels this is technique much simpler than other rapport techniques but it's also much more advanced. It works by creating a model that your conscious mind may find reasonable and doable even if it is a bit "out there".

One key to creating rapport is knowing that people like people who are like themselves. And who could be more like someone than themselves?

In this technique you are going to imagine being the other person talking to himself. Here’s how:

1) When you engage in some interaction with another person, imagine that
there is an exact duplicate of him just in front of you facing him.

2) Imagine stepping out of your body and "stepping into" the duplicate and
becoming him. If a third person could participate in this hallucination they
would see the person you're talking to talking to a duplicate of himself!

3) Use all your senses to imagine what it's like as you look through his eyes at himself, hear his own words coming from his mouth and move around in his body.

4) Ask your self several questions as you do this. What does it feel like
to be this gender (if it’s not your own)? How warm is it in this body? What are the
feelings and emotions I'm feeling in this body?

This technique works because it forces your mind to match EVERYTHING in that person’s experience.
When you do this for the first time it can be a bit overwhelming at first. You may even lose sight of your outcome (what you are trying to make happen). Don't worry. Everything you learn here is a skill and with practice you will improve greatly.

WARNING: Be careful who you step into! Would you really want to step into the mind of a paranoid schizophrenic or someone in chronic pain?

So be sure you truly want to create deep rapport before using this technique. If the answer is yes, it can give you some amazing results.

Are you stressed? Gaining Weight? You May Have Adrenal Gland Fatigue

Are the following symptoms familiar to you?
• Tendency to gain weight and unable to loose it, especially around the waist.
• High frequency of getting the flu and other respiratory diseases
• Tendency to tremble when under pressure.
• Reduced sex drive.
• Lightheaded when rising from a laying down position.
• Unable to remember things.
• Lack of energy in the mornings and also in the afternoon between 3 to 5 pm.
• Often feel tired between 9 - 10 pm, but resist going to bed.
• Need coffee or stimulants to get going in the morning.
• Crave for salty, fatty, and high protein food such as meat and cheese.
• Increase symptoms of PMS for women; period are heavy and then stop, or almost stopped on the 4th day, only to start flow again on the 5th or 6th day.
• Pain in the upper back or neck with no apparent reason

If many of these symptoms are familiar to you, you may be experiencing adrenal fatigue. Adrenal fatigue has a broad spectrum yet somewhat non-specific set of symptoms, which makes it easy for doctors to miss.

The adrenal glands are two small glands, located at the top of the kidneys. Their main function is to help the body cope with stress and help it survive.

Each adrenal gland has two compartments. The inner or medulla, modulate the sympathetic nervous system through secretion and regulation of two hormones called epinephrine and nor epinephrine that are responsible for the fight or flight response. The outer adrenal cortex comprises 80 percent of the adrenal gland and is responsible for producing over 50 different types of hormones. One of which is called cortisol. When our cortisol is lowered, our body is unable to deal with stress.

When a person experiences chronic stress, the cortisol level may rise to such a high level that its production reduces as the adrenal becomes exhausted. When this happens, DHEA, a hormone normally produced in the adrenal glands, starts to decrease.

Our adrenals after time cannot keep up with the increased demand for cortisol production. In response, cortisol output is therefore reduced.

Eventually our adrenals become totally exhausted.

But don’t despair. The good news is that adrenal fatigue can be reversed. It takes between six months to two years for the recover process to take place. To start, try these steps:

1. Remove life stressors. Look at what is causing stress in your life and find ways to work with them if not remove them.
2. Sleep. Get plenty of sleep. Try going to bed by at least 10 p.m. before the adrenal glands kick in its ‘second wind’ keeping us up between 11 p.m. and 1 p.m. This is also the time our adrenals work the hardest.
3. Avoid caffeine if possible. Try herbal teas or decaf coffee. Caffeine can interrupt your sleep patterns.
4. Exercise. Exercise reduces depression, increases blood flow and normalizes levels of cortisol, insulin, blood glucose, and helps with your thyroid
5. Nutritional Supplements. Supplements such as DHEA at 15 to 30 mg helps. Vitamin C, 500 mg to 3,000 mg; Vitamin B5, 900 to 1,500 mg; Vitamin E, 400 to 800 I.U; Beta-Carotene, 10,000 to 25,000 I.U.
6. Diet. Combine unrefined carbohydrates (whole grains) with protein and oils (nuts and seeds) at most meals—olive, walnut, fiber, flax and high-quality fish oil. Eat regular meals, chew food well, and eat by 10 AM and again for lunch. Avoid any hydrogenated fats, caffeine, chocolate, white carbohydrates, and junk foods. Diets should have a heavy emphasis on vegetables.

R. Fredriksen is the Vice President of Nutrition Dome, a leading provider of pioneer nutritional formulas. For more information, please visit www.nutritiondome.com.

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The Physiology of Success
By Danek S. Kaus

Did you know that the way you use your body can lead to success or failure?

It’s true. Our old friend NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) has taken the mind/body connection a step further. NLP shows us that there is a physiology of success. How you sit, stand, walk, etc., can have a major impact on both your self-confidence and your level of competence.

Which direction is your body leading you right now? Here’s how to find out and what to do about it if you don’t like the answer.

First, take a moment to think about your current emotional state. Are you happy, depressed, sad, motivated?

Next, become aware of how you are sitting or standing. If you are reading this article, you are probably sitting at the moment. Are you sitting straight back, with you feet flat on the floor? Are you slouching? Is your breathing deep and healing or shallow and tense?

Whatever position you are in, it is a reflections of your current emotional state. If you want to change what you are feeling/thinking you need to change your physiology. It goes back to the mind/body thing. Your thoughts and emotions affect your body and your body affects your emotions. Change one and you change the other.

Think about what or how you would like to feel. For now, let’s say you want to feel more confident and motivated. Now ask yourself, “How would I sit and breathe if I were extremely confident and motivated?”

“But I don’t know how I would do that,” you might respond.

Yes you do. The inner part of you knows. Just imagine you that your are already thinking and feeling what you want to experience. Go ahead. Pretend you feel that way. Now let your body adjust itself to how it wants to be. Sit, or stand or walk, as though you had the thoughts and feelings you want to a have.

If it’s confidence and motivation, you are probably sitting or standing with your back straight. You might notice your breathing has changed. Your face might be more relaxed. You may even be smiling.

Enjoy your new experience.

Now I’m going to take it away from you. Don’t worry. You can have it back in a moment.

Sit or stand the way your were before you read this article. Notice the difference? Not so good, huh? If you want to recapture how you felt a moment ago, simply change your physiology back to the way you want it to be.

You can use this technique in so many ways. You can create a physiology for learning, working, creating, talking with authority and so on. All you have to do is change into the physiology that matches the mental/emotional state you want to experience.

And then reap the rewards.

PERSUADE ANYONE, ANYWHERE ANYTIME

Read Power Persuasion: Using Hypnotic Influence to Win in Life, Love and Business by David R. Barron and Danek S. Kaus

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REDUCE STRESS by KILLING THE SHOULD MONSTER
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Reduce Stress - Shed Your "Shoulds"
By Pat Samples


Living with a Should Monster? A Should Monster is that critical nagging voice that repeatedly tells you that you should be doing a better job as a caregiver. It could be a replay of the voice of your spouse, relative, or friend, or it could be your own self-critic who’s creating merciless “should” lists for you.

See if these sound familiar:

“I should be a lot more patient.”

“I should be able to manage by myself.”

“I shouldn’t complain; other people have it worse.”


Such unrealistic and demanding “shoulds” pile on the stress. For example, the more you criticize yourself for not being patient enough, the more tense you’ll likely feel, making you less patient with others. It might be comforting to realize that even Mother Theresa was known to be fairly testy with those around her, despite her great love and care for suffering people.

The next time you hear yourself saying, “I should,” ask yourself three questions:

1) Is it true?

Is it true that you “should” be able to manage by yourself? Pioneers in the Old West had to get by on their own because no one else was around for miles, but this lone ranger philosophy isn’t “true” today, and it can cost you your health.

Is it true you shouldn’t complain? “Whining” may not win friends, but pretending that you’re not hurting when the going gets rough may leave you feeling discouraged, lonely, and even depressed. And though your pain is less than someone else’s, it still hurts. Telling someone in a straightforward way that you’re honestly struggling may open the way for receiving the kind of help people genuinely want to give.

2) How would my stress level change if I didn’t have that thought?

If you didn’t demand greater patience of yourself, for example, maybe you’d feel less pressure on yourself—and actually feel like being more patient.

3) Whose thought is it?

Does your “should” come directly from your merciless Should Monster? Say “No thank you” or “I don’t buy that” to your inner critic.

Is your “should” based on your own sincere beliefs? Then why not turn it from a should statement to a free choice by saying “I will” or “I’m willing” instead. For example, “I’ll do my best to be more patient (and my best is good enough!)” or “I’m willing to manage by myself.”

Then check again, and see if the new statement rings true and if it lowers your stress. If not, then make a new choice such as “I’m willing to have help and I’ll ask around until I get it.” By taking charge of your thoughts, you can stop feeling pushed by your Should Monster and instead become inspired by goals that reflect your own free choice.

Pat Samples is the author of Daily Comforts for Caregivers and Self-Care for Caregivers and an international speaker who helps family caregivers find peace of mind. Learn more at [http://www.agingandcaregiving.com/]http://www.agingandcaregiving.com.