Slug/What Your Habits Say About You -- And How to Change Them
By Danek S. Kaus

We all have habits. Some of them are good habits, like exercising regularly.
Other habits, like smoking, drinking or eating too much, or procrastinating, don’t serve us. They lessen our lives and keep us from being who we could be.
In many ways, your habits, good or bad, define who you are, according to author, speaker and success coach Tamir Qadree.
Fortunately, we can break our bad habits and replace them with good ones.
Below is a list of some bad habits, their causes, and their cures, according to Qadree.

Overeating

Cause: This habit can often be rooted in childhood, especially for people who grew up in homes where there was a lot of stress or poverty. One reason people overeat it is to feel better. Food can create chemical changes in the body that give us an emotional high. Qadree says that overeating to get a short emotional high is an immature approach to feeling good.

Solution: The key is self-love. “Know that whatever happened in the past it, is all right to love and forgive yourself, to tell yourself that you are worthy and good enough,” Qadree says.

Procrastination

Cause: Fear of success. “People who fear success worry about how their life will change. “They are afraid that their family and friends will react negatively,“ Qadree says.

Solution: Understand that it is okay for you to be yourself. Do the things that bring you joy as they move you closer to your dreams. “If you enjoy doing something deep in your heart, it will bring you success,” Qadree says.

Sleeping Late

Cause: Oversleeping or sleeping too much can be caused by a fear of facing the world. It is also caused by not knowing what you want to do with your life.

Solution: Find a purpose for your life. Qadree suggests getting quiet and asking God, Your Higher Self or whatever source of inner guidance you use, including your subconscious mind, to tell you what your purpose is. “If it involves serving others in some way, it is a true purpose. If it is does not, you’re just kidding yourself,” Qadree says.

Watching too Much TV or Excessive Video Game Playing

Cause: Wasting too much time on distractions means that you are afraid of your own imagination and of silence. It can also stem from a fear of not being accepted or a fear of your own power. Qadree cites a saying from author Marianne Williamson: “The problem is not that we are not powerful, but that we are very powerful.”

Solution: Spend 10 minutes in silence early in the morning and then late at night. Talk to God or your subconscious mind, etc. Focus on your life. Feel the life within you and focus on your inner core. “Most people don’t take time to feel the life inside them. If they did it twice a day, they would see remarkable changes,” Qadree says. “Instead of running for the noise they would run for the silence and feel more confident and less stressed. They would feel more attached to life.”

Tamir Adree is the president of Esteem Now, Inc., which specializes in building healthy self-esteem. His latest book is “The Reclining Master Awaken: One Minute to Healthy Self Esteem.” For more information visit www.esteemnow.com

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